For Christians, divorce and destruction are synonymous in that there is a cataclysmic separation between a husband and wife which results in the ripping of flesh. The covenant between man, woman, and God is broken. But, what about the children of divorce? What about their fundamental rights to experience love and have a relationship with both parents? What about the preservation of the word of God within the home and family?
Deuteronomy 6:7 says, “And thou shalt teach them diligently unto thy children, and shalt talk of them when thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way, and when thou liest down, and when thou risest up.” Rather than receive the spiritual inheritance they are promised, children of divorce are often left with emotional wounds and pain so devastating they are carried into adulthood and passed down from one generation to the next.
The intentional and unintentional actions of divorcing parents which place children in the middle of conflict and provides them with less attention and support causes destruction so great it can nullify the inheritance. A “good” man, does not leave his children as unloved, abandoned, living below his means, victims of manipulation, or without knowing Christ.
We must remember that children are not bystanders just watching the destruction of divorce occur, they are participants in the family and therefore deeply impacted by every decision. It is their God given right to receive an inheritance. And, no one, including parents, better yet, especially parents, has the right to interfere with it.
My divorce, which took 3 years to finalize, almost destroyed me physically, financially, and emotionally. It was not until I surrendered to God and allowed Him to fight my battles that my life began to move forward with a greater sense of peace, forgiveness, and direction. While God was doing a work in me, I was still single handedly working to protect my children from the fallout of the divorce. I had not allowed God to enter into this space. As a mother, I needed to protect my babies.
Eventually, I realized that my protection only lasted up to the time my children walked out of the front door; and, it did not cover all of the perils confronting them aiming to steal their inheritance. My children and their inheritance needed greater protection than I could provide. I knew I needed to release my hold on them; allow their parental relationships to exist without my interference; release the guilt I carried that caused me to give in to their every desire despite my financial situation; and release the guilt that caused me to ease up on any necessary disciplinary actions.
Rather than continue on with the Bionic Woman heroics, I reconnected to the ultimate power source and set out to rebuild the inheritance that was rightfully due to my children and their children. Through fasting, praying, and soaking up the word of God, I was able to fully release my children, their future, and my relationship with them into God’s hands.
I rest assured knowing their inheritance is now fully protected wherever they are. Proverbs 22:6 says, “Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.” This scripture reminds me that nothing and no one can destroy the inheritance of truth that has been instilled in my children.
The magnitude of the inheritance referenced in the bible is more than a gift of land or a life insurance policy designating your child as the beneficiary. It is a gift than can pave the way to everlasting life for your child. It is a gift that holds the key to their success and the success of generations to come.
This spiritual inheritance pays dividends early in a child’s life and benefits later as parents exemplify righteous living and consistently teach the biblical principles of unconditional love, grace, praise, worship, the joy of giving, and the spirit of overcoming. It is so important for spiritually mature parents to stay vigilant and not allow the fallout of divorce to emotionally damage their children nor compromise their ability to live a joy filled life with both parents.